My son is starting to go through puberty. I have looked at all types of books to discuss what is going on with the changes in his body, but none of the books are based off of Christian principles. Most of the books say exploring with masturbation is quite alright and you should explore your body. They talk about homosexual feelings and sex, but no where in any of the books I checked out, did it say refrain from having sex and abstinance is the way to go. I want my son to have these old morals that are so long gone in the world. Being a single mom, I have to try and find a way to have the talk with my son and relate the information that I don’t know about when it comes to the male body.
I haven’t looked into this a great deal yet b/c my children are younger (3 & 4) I do have several books by Dr. James Dosbson & I just love them! & he has a great reputation! He has a book called "Raising Teenagers Right" I haven’t read it, but knowing it’s Dr James Dobson-I would highly recomend it. I also found an article by him regarding puberty:
http://www.christianindex.org/2094.article
You could also do a search for christian puberty books or talk to your youth minister or pastor.
You would also like "bringing up Boys" by Dr James Dobson. Not as much about puberty but so much more! Helps you understand how boys think!
best of luck.
March 1st, 2010 at 8:09 am
Puberty is puberty. Christian or not. Even christians masterbate and have sexual thoughts and feelings.
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March 1st, 2010 at 8:35 am
The Bible and Song of Solomon is a good start- this way you can tell him that sex has a righteous place in marriage and is sinful out of marriage.
Other than that, why do you need a book? Just tell him how the human body works, what hormones do, and why his body is changing. No big deal.
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March 1st, 2010 at 9:02 am
Ask a Jehovahs Witness for a book called .." Learn from the Greatest Teacher ". and the greatest teacher is Jesus..It is a book i use to teach my younger sister. It is a great book and it shows you even how to handle situations like bullies and wat to do if someone else tries touching them in an appropiate way. And it does show bible texts to prove these principles and how we should respect older ones and so many basic things ypung children should now.
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March 1st, 2010 at 9:18 am
I haven’t looked into this a great deal yet b/c my children are younger (3 & 4) I do have several books by Dr. James Dosbson & I just love them! & he has a great reputation! He has a book called "Raising Teenagers Right" I haven’t read it, but knowing it’s Dr James Dobson-I would highly recomend it. I also found an article by him regarding puberty:
http://www.christianindex.org/2094.article
You could also do a search for christian puberty books or talk to your youth minister or pastor.
You would also like "bringing up Boys" by Dr James Dobson. Not as much about puberty but so much more! Helps you understand how boys think!
best of luck.
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March 1st, 2010 at 9:37 am
There are a few Christian based books about puberty that I read when I was younger. One is "God Are You There? Its Me Margrit" and another one is called "Virgins" Both are very informative. good luck
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March 1st, 2010 at 10:25 am
Hey! Im christian too and my mom ordered christian books on sex ed. from a catalog. I have 2 for a girl and 2 others for both genders. But at the moment im not sure where the other two are. Once i find them, I would email the names to you, if you like but thats all up to you. So my suggestion to you is to look in a catalog for now.
God bless ♥
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March 1st, 2010 at 11:07 am
I would stop trying to find the book. you need to talk to him yourself because he will feel comfortable talking to you about sex and that will decrease the chance of him inpregnating anyone because he would be curious otherwise so he would go out and have sex . That will help him so he doesn’t even want to have sex until he is 18.
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March 1st, 2010 at 11:23 am
Good books to start w/ are
http://www.sonlight.com/rr47.html...
http://www.sonlight.com/rr11.html...
Then move on to "Passion and Purity" by Elizabeth Elliott.
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March 1st, 2010 at 11:37 am
I read a book called "Sex Whats That?"
Or something named like that.
I’d do a google on Christian S_x ed.
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March 1st, 2010 at 12:05 pm
old morals ? XD lmao . you must be living in the dark ages . when he gets horny and knock a girl because he didn’t was learned about protection then go cry
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March 1st, 2010 at 12:21 pm
Your best bet is for you to be the one to tell him. For questions you don’t know, I suggest where I send kids looking for good information, http://www.scarleteen.com and http://www.sexetc.org.
You may not want to hear this, but hear me out. You may want to use the secular books you found already too, to use to say "This is what some people believe. I believe things a bit differently…" and explain your position.
That way when he’s out in the world, it won’t all seem new and more attractive because it’s totally unfamiliar. If you raise a kid TOO insulated from the world, it’ll be like a savage mugging when he’s exposed to it on his own. I’ve seen it a lot. A little information now can prevent a heck of a catastrophe down the line.
And make it clear that masturbation can be a minor sin at worst, while an unplanned pregnancy is a big one. I’ve known kids who were taught they were THE SAME sort of offense, so they just went ahead and became parents at 14. Trust me on this one.
If you need help, we’ll be here!
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March 1st, 2010 at 12:43 pm
Puberty is scientific, it has a scientific explanation, puberty has nothing to do with religion.
Also if you are just teaching your son about abstinance then you arent teaching him about protection and thats just dumb.
leave religion out of it, its not real anyways.
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March 1st, 2010 at 1:12 pm
you CAN teach your child abstinence is the way to go. and you can teach him about STDs and protection too. their is NO reason that he cannot know the dangers of having s_x before marriage. by all means teach him that abstinence is the ONLY RIGHT thing to do.
as far as Christian books go… look into a book from BJU press. Bob Jones University is one of the nation’s largest Christian school’s. they have thousands of books on all kinds of subjects and they probably have one on this too.
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March 1st, 2010 at 1:55 pm
There probably are, but kids’ bodies don’t know what religion they are. The best source of info is http://www.kidshealth.org. It even has a section for parents.
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March 1st, 2010 at 2:08 pm
I think you should let your son know all this information even if you think he shouldn’t have sex until he’s married. By all means tell your son that abstinence is the best policy (and the ONLY way to be sure of avoiding STDs and pregnancy), but don’t think that not giving him safe sex information will keep him from acting on his sexual feelings.
He needs to know, on top of the basic information about voice changes and growth spurts, that his feelings are normal, that masturbating is harmless as long as it’s done in private, and that you won’t tell him he’s going to hell for feelings he can’t help. If you try to shame your child into following your morals or hide things from him to get him to do so, he will resent you and not trust you.
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March 1st, 2010 at 2:32 pm
Check out the Dobsen books in another post. Another good book that sounds like exactly what your looking for is called "Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series) (Paperback)
by Stephen Arterburn (Author), Fred Stoeker (Author), Mike Yorkey (Editor) "
I do have to say that books are not everything, make sure he has some kind of dialog going with some man that he can talk to.
Kudos for being a mom that cares!!!
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